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Mmegi Online :: Good Mothers Make Supreme Sacrifices To Raise Children

Somebody once said you don’t need an education to be a mother but with the changing times many mothers needs education on how to be mothers. The face of a mother has changed with the changing times.

Mmegi Online :: Good Mothers Make Supreme Sacrifices To Raise Children

Mothers used to care too much for their children and would not let them wander around in the streets. Those were the days when it was always said a mother held a knife at the sharp point for their children. A caring mother would be elated at hearing that she is pregnant. The thought of having a baby in her arms, the thought of seeing the baby start moving her eyes around the house, turning on their stomach without being helped and watching them make their first attempt at crawling. A mother would be very jealous of the baby’s father if he were the one who heard the child’s first words or the baby’s first steps.

A mother will break her back to ensure her children are well fed, in fact not well fed but have food on the table everyday. The mother will against all odds make sure that her children know that she loves them even though she does not have anything at all to give them. She will make it a point that the little that she has she uses for her children’s gain, the little money that she has would rather buy food while the child goes to school in a torn jersey in winter. She will buy relish for her children even though they sleep in a single-room house sharing torn blankets as long as the children have something to eat that night.

And mothers will ensure that no matter what their children will go to school and if they failed then at least they would have supported them. A caring mother would at least support a career that the children choose to take instead of just brushing them off.

Mothers never left the wayward children in the lurch, they disciplined them. Spare the rod and spoil the child, mothers back then whipped their children to instill discipline because they knew very well that a child does not come with directions and a guarantee.  No one can claim that if you’re a “good” mother, your child will turn out to be a good child.

Somebody said you couldn’t love the fifth child as much as you love the first and you can bet that somebody doesn’t have five children. A mother’s love is unconditional to all her children regardless how many they might be.

Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery and you can bet again that somebody never watched her “baby” get on the bus for the first day of cr�che no matter how prepared you might have been for the day.

Then you fast forward to the mothers in this age and you will be shocked of the stories told. It was recently announced

on television that a mother had dumped her healthy baby in the bushes in Goodhope a few weeks ago and one wonders what kind of a mother can do such a thing. You hear of a mother who dumped her beautiful son in a pit latrine a few days after giving birth to them and you wonder. Was it not heart wrenching to watch that news story reported from Maun of a baby who was rescued from a pit latrine? If the mother was watching what was she thinking because I know very well I shed a tear for that poor soul.

What about a mother who leaves her children alone only to run away with a new boyfriend? You hear a story of a mother who leaves her children uncared for to go drink and have fun with her friends. Why allow yourself to get pregnant in the first place if you still want to have so much fun that you forget that you are a mother?  Is it not painful to think of a brilliant child roaming the streets in winter while the mother is somewhere in a warm house because she could not control her child and now does not want to live under the same roof with them. One cannot help but ask how a mother fails to control their children they gave birth to while they are still at that tender age. Children do not choose their parents but the parents I believe they chose to have children or not.

Once you become a mother, that role never ends. It doesn’t stop when your child reaches age 18, or graduates college. No – it is a life-long position. In fact, even if you don’t chose to have children of your own, many women still care for and nurture their own mothers, or their siblings’ children. It is human nature.

I know that I am not a perfect mother but I know I will move mountains for my two beautiful daughters. They never chose to be my children but I let myself get pregnant and have them. They never chose to have me as their mother but now it is my responsibility that they are well cared for, well fed and have a roof over their heads. It is not about what I want to do at a certain time but to make it a priority that their needs are met. I am their mother and no one told me that my life would be normal once I became a mother.

So a happy belated mother’s day to all mothers who take their role of being a mother very seriously. You cannot be perfect but at least you can try.